Monday, January 7, 2013


Rated R movies, Mormon, LDS, Growing Gracie,

And that's just the few I could think of off the top of my head. I know there are more.

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind- See, there's another one.

For those who aren't LDS and who are following our lives, we have been asked us to not to watch Rated R movies.

This quote from Elder David A. Bednar sums it up pretty well:

“The standard is clear. If something we think, see, hear, or do distances us from the Holy Ghost, then we should stop thinking, seeing, hearing, or doing that thing. If that which is intended to entertain, for example, alienates us from the Holy Spirit, then certainly that type of entertainment is not for us.” 

I know that it must be hard for the Holy Ghost to be near when I am watching Bridesmaids...

But I think my struggle is a unique one, in the sense that I think it is unique. Ha!

I am a theatre major and for years it was my job to know different plays and movies of all sorts. I grew up appreciating all different types of movies, wether they were rated-r or not. 

I have not always been a member of the church. I have ALWAYS loved movies and never discriminated them because of the rating they got from a group of people sitting in a room deciding for a mass of people what is appropriate.

I guess that is what bothers me. I know how they rate movies. I know that the rating system has changed so much as the years have gone by. I know that by a movie using the "f-word" it would get Rated-R. 

How The Green Mile, The Prince of Tides, A Star Is Born, Erin Brokovich, etc... all got rated-r...
I will never know. 

Before, a movie would have to have a lot of nudity and a LOT of situational violence to get classified as Rated R...which I understand and there are movies out there that are just filthy. I have no problem not watching those, because I didn't watch them in the first place. I am not a fan of nudity for the sake of nudity or violence for the sake of violence, which seems to be the only theme in some of the movies of today.

But there are times I think it's for the sake of art; to tell a story. I am a big fan of story telling, and yes, sometimes nudity is needed to get a point across. Sometimes a litany of swear words is needed to get a character's feelings across. To me, movies should be as real as possible. They tell a story of the human condition (varied stories {sometimes overly exaggerated stories} of the human condition...but still). They tell the story of how we, in this world, live together. How is every story of that not fascinating? How is it not vital that we watch it? These stories are our legacy!!!

How many people have seen Cleopatra just to see the movie were Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton met? How many people have watched Mr. & Mrs. Smith for the very same reason, only with Brangelina? Our lives, our times, our history, can be played out in the movies. Starting from our very first movie ever made to the last movie that has been released, you can see our progression. To me, it's a glorious thing to revel in.

When Marlon Brando, the Godfather, said 
"I'm gonna make him an offer he can't refuse" 
it instantly became one of the most quoted lines of all time. I still hear it in movies and tv shows all the time. It is highly considered as one of the greatest movies of all time. 

It is a Rated-R movie.

I bawl my eyes out EVERY time Sophie has to choose between her children in Sophie's Choice. Which one to save...which one to send off to the Nazi's. I imagine the choice with my own children and my heart literally hurts. I cry seeing her struggle and I feel horrible that it happened to them and I enraged at the terrible injustice. 

It is a Rated-R movie.

Not to mention the Barbra movies. I can't say no to Barbra. It is not in my genetic make-up. 

You see my struggle.

It's hard for me to say no to a movie simply on it's rating. I use my judgement. If it looks stupid or just too much--and is Rated-R--or the previews, director, actors in it, etc--give way to a look inside the movie--and it's unfavorable--I don't watch them. 

We have started movies before, and when they cross the line we have set--we turn it off. We use our best judgement to determine the things we should not be watching that would disinvite the Holy Ghost from being in our home.

I like to think God understands my heart, knows I am not watching Rated R movies for boobies, drugs, murder, etc. I am watching the movies for the artistic value that speaks to my every being, and some of them just happen to be (fairly or unfairly) Rated-R.

However, we were just sealed in the Temple. I wonder how that will impact our rated-r movie watching...

I'll let you know.



  1. Three things: 1) YOU POINTED OUT SO MANY GOOD ONES!!!! The Green Mile used to be one of my favorites! 2) SO EXCITED YOU GOT SEALED IN THE TEMPLE!!!! I might have literally clapped my hands when I read that! 3) I want you to be my Emerging Blogger this month. Since you'll be my first one and therefore my guinea pig, I wave the qualification stuff. You in? Email me for the promo code.


  2. I've never seen anywhere specifically written that says "No rated R movies" ... it's just like the quote you used. I don't judge a movie by its rating, because it's basically meaningless at this point anyway. I watch reviews and what friends say then decide for myself. There are a few Rs that I have seen and I have no problem watching, but there are a lot of PG13s that I will never watch. It's all about content, but even more importantly, about how that content makes you feel. I try to think of it this way: if you'd have a hard time transitioning from that movie to a family home evening lesson... it might not be the best choice. :)
    Keep fighting the good fight! It just does my heart good to see you find something that makes you happy... and to watch you do whatever you can to change yourself in ways that make you feel better. Lurv you. :)


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