I just have this to say about it really: Why is it ANYONE'S business what I do with my kid? If I am not harming them, and they are perfectly healthy and happy...does it matter if they are cloth diapered or not? Does it matter if they were breastfed or bottle fed? I am like...900% sure that when judgment day comes God isn't gonna care if I fed Gracie all organic or not. He's gonna care if I loved my little girl and I treated her right.
|Breastfed or bottle fed? Can you tell in this picture?|
I have been asked more times than I care to admit about whether or not I am going to circumcise our son. (Granted, I made a post asking opinions, but outside of that post it's not exactly party talk.) I have been told I'd be a monster to do it and abusing my son. I have been told that I am unfeeling hippie freak if I don't. This is apparently a battle that can't be won.
I feel like that's how everything is with motherhood now-a-days: a battle that can't be won. If you breastfeed you are snooty and shoving it in the face of those who don't, if you formula feed you are selfish and don't care for your child. If you cloth diaper you are a hippie freak who wants to feel better about themselves, if you use disposable, you don't care about your kids butt and you're ruining the environment. See? Ya can't win.
But when did motherhood become a battle of winning and losing? Why does it matter so much? Why can't we just support each other. Why must we call people out for doing things differently than we do them?
You like to breastfeed? GREAT! Do that! You want to use disposable diapers? GREAT! Do that!
Motherhood is hard enough without someone telling you that you're doing it wrong.
I know that every decision I have made for Gracie has had a lot of thought and research put into it. Daniel and I make decisions for her based on what WE think is best for her and for our family. That's our job as her parents. The same is happening for little dude, we have to make a series of serious decisions for him in a matter of time, and they're hard decisions but they're decisions we've prayed about and put a lot of thought into. I feel confident in saying that's how most parents operate.
Each mom has put thought into why she is doing certain things with and for her kids. Who are we to judge them for those decisions? Who are we to say "Hey, I don't know the details of your life or your family, or how much thought and prayer you put into this decision, but I know infinitely better than you and this is how you should be doing this."?
|Does she eat all organic or not? Can you tell?|
We honestly just need to support mothers and every aspect of that. Their babies are not YOUR babies. You don't like that they aren't breastfeeding? Then breastfeed YOUR child. Ya know? I think we do it because we seek approval or a sense of "You're doing it right" and telling others they are doing it wrong makes us feel like we're doing it right. But that is so very very wrong.
Instead of trying to make decisions for everyone else's family, be confident in your decisions without needing to make others feel bad for theirs. Focus on your family and be grateful for your circumstances, and for the ability to make decisions you are comfortable with.
Anything else really isn't any of your business.
|Here is what you need to know about her: she is LOVED.|